Let Sleeping Babies Lie Cont.

It is so vital for parents to understand the varying cues babies display to their caregivers.  Establishing a foundation of good communication, according to the Journal of Perinatal Education, fosters a peaceful and happy relationship between the child and parents.  Because children do not develop adequate verbal skills until well into the toddler stage, it is up to the parents to become non-verbal communication experts toward their own children.   

Definitely Disengaged!

Even newborns can give off certain cues to caregivers alerting them to desires for play and rest.  Following the cues can prevent a lot of crying (from both parties) in the household.  The Journal provides a table to which you can refer to guide you in reading your baby.  The disengagement cues are especially important to "catch" in order to make a good night for everyone.  

As soon as Grace starts to show these cues, my husband I try to get her ready for bed or nap time.  If we are distracted and miss it, sleep for everyone can be postponed for several hours.  Although, lately, it seems Grace has been actively fighting off sleep in order to try to engage with her daddy, despite our efforts to create a "sleepy time" atmosphere for her.  As you can see, no technique is the guaranteed ticket to sleep but it does provide a nice framework from which we can work.

  

Let Sleeping Babies Lie

Sweet Sleep!

We've been blessed with a good sleeper.  Even from birth, we seldom had horrible nights where we had little to no sleep.  I do believe most of it had to do with genes but I like to think that we enforced certain sleeping habits early on that might have contributed a little.  Even if it didn't, it was nice to have a couple solutions to help us through the more difficult nights.  However, sometimes they all backfire.  Even just yesterday, Grace absolutely refused to take her morning nap even though she was so tired.  So she finally went down at 3:40.  It was a very trying day and evening since she put up her defenses again until 11pm that night.

So with that glowing endorsement of my skills, let me share with you some of our sleeping tools:

First and foremost, we love Dr. Harvey Karp's 5 S's  for not only calming a baby but guiding her to sleep.  The 5 S's, as some of you may know, are

1. Swaddling: Tight swaddling recreates the confinement of the womb.
2. Side/Stomach position: Holding the baby on the right side slightly face down.
3. Shushing: Karp uses a loud "ssh" sound similar to the loud white noise that is present in the womb.
4. Swinging (and jiggling): Gentle but constant jiggling (especially of the head) is intended to remind babies of the constant motion they experienced in the womb.
5. Sucking: Karp also recommends the use of pacifiers.

"Baby Jedi Mind Trick" in action

A calm baby makes for a sleepy baby.  My husband and I tried to memorize these S's before Grace was born so we could employ them immediately after birth.  It was so nice to have these tools when Grace inevitably started crying.  Once we could get the crying to stop (which took seconds) we could identify better what she wanted us to address.  I don't have any research to back this up but I do believe our early use of calming techniques helped build her trust in us.  She is a calmer and more outgoing baby than others I've seen of her age (said by her biased and very proud mother).


The rest of our techniques aren't really techniques but just information about how babies work.  


Babies have different sleep states than adults. Babies start off in the lightest stage of sleep where any slight jostle from the parent can wake them.  That's usually why they wake up again as soon as you place them in the crib.  The transition from light stages to deeper stages can be tricky as well.  Some babies may cry or open their eyes.  It's so important to not disturb them as they make that transition.  It may seem like good parenting to rush to your baby's side at the sound of the slightest whimper but it tends to actually impede the coveted "sleeping through the night."


In reality, no one sleeps through the night.  With varying stages of sleep and wakefulness, "successful" sleepers soothe themselves back to sleep.  This is the goal in getting babies to sleep all night.  Although, physiologically, a young baby needs to wake up in the night-- more on that later.  When we continually interrupt their sleep cycle, we teach them that they always need us to get to the next sleep stage.


Tomorrow I'll talk about sleep cues and the importance of catching them so baby (and you!) can catch some zzzz's.

New Toy

Clearly enjoying it! 

Grace has a new toy! It's kind of a big deal since we try to limit the amount of toys we have for her.  I guess you could call it a "baby cage" but I think Grace just enjoys being upright more often.  We bought it used from our local baby products consignment store.


I love that we have such a great consignment store like Little Ones because it enables us to buy quality items at a lower price.  I also appreciate supporting a local business since the economy here in the Central Valley is not what it used to be.  


I asked the owner how long do babies usually enjoy playing with this bouncer toy and he informed that she will lose interest in it when she starts walking.  Considering her dad and I both started walking right around our first birthday or slightly before, I anticipate at least five more months of use.  With such a relatively small window of time, I'm glad we bought used! 

This particular toy lights up and makes weird noises that Grace seems to love.  She especially loves to suck on that orange elephant in the background.  I was able to wipe it down before she sucked too much on him though.

Meet Grace

This is Grace, our daughter.  She is a joy to us, our blessing from the Lord.  She's almost 5 months old now and she's learning so many things.  Her favorite things to do right now are to sit and to stand!

Not Another Mom Blog

So excited about Mama's blog!

Yes! Another one! It's the next natural step after coming home from the hospital.  Where else will I spew out all my new motherly wisdom?  Enough cynicism.  Take my thoughts for what they're worth and leave the rest to embarrass my daughter when she's old enough to read this.